Goals are wonderful, but can also put undue pressure on us, and we can feel doubly bad when we don’t quite attain the things we’ve put on our list.
As a Desire Map facilitator, I learned the value of basing our goals on how we want to feel.
How do you want to feel when you wake up tomorrow?
How do you want to feel when you look at your schedule for the week?
When you get dressed in the morning?
When you walk through the door of your studio or your office?
When you pick up the phone?
When you cash the check, accept the award, finish your masterpiece, make the sale, or fall in love?
Say your "goal" is to get a new job. How would you feel in this job? Confident, clarity?
If you want to have more money, why? How would you feel with more money? Maybe... abundant, safe.
“Feeling good is the primary objective.” - Danielle LaPorte
Setting goals can seem daunting, and I've found this process to be super helpful. For a deeper dive into this concept, check out "The Desire Map" by Danielle LaPorte.
So, as you look at your goals, how do you want to feel? What words capture that desire? Try basing your goals on this sentiment, and watch your dreams manifest.
Joyful Affirmation for a Embracing How You Want to Feel
Gently I greet my self, and the New Year. I ease out of the shell I’ve built around me over the last twelve months, and find that my spirit is ready to soar. Dullness flakes away as my shine begins to emerge. In my heart, I accept and acknowledge one word – YES. Like the dawn of a new day, my vibrant self is shrugging off the shroud of uncertainty that has crept over my bones and shaded my eyes from seeing the aliveness that burns with the creative energy within me. The shroud is gone. The shell is broken. In front of me, the New Year. Possibility spills before me like a clear and warm stream of water. I step in, glowing. Around me, my reflection in the water glitters softly. My soul is alight. I am not afraid. I know the best version of myself. The world longs to feel her shine. It is time to drift away and into my glory. To know that the versions of truth I hold for myself are real, and attainable. I can see them, there in the distance. I extend my shimmering fingers and the joyful sense of my heart’s desire, recognizing itself, reaches back to me. This year, I will exist in a world that supports me and cheers me on. I am surrounded by the life force that thrives upon my brilliance. I shine. I let myself shine.
Some sample Core Desired Feelings:
CONNECTED • ALIVE • BRAVE
CLARITY • LOVE • SEXY • GROW
JOY • SPIRIT • SENSUOUS
EASE • RESTED • FULFILLED
COMFORT • AWE • BLISS
AUTHENTIC • ABUNDANT • HOPE
SERENE • CALM • SHINING
VIBRANT • FLOW • WELL
WHOLESOME • NOURISHED
FREE • STRONG • PLAYFUL
How do you want to feel?